Dr Robert Lefever's Lectures

Please watch from a selection of addiction and recovery lectures

Dr Robert Lefever created the first rehabilitation centre in the world to treat ALL addictions. In the UK he was also the first to

  • treat patients with eating disorders alongside those with drug and alcohol problems
  • treat compulsive gambling, internet addiction and workaholism
  • identify and treat compulsive helping.

ADDICTION, DEALING WITH GUILT AND SHAME


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Shame, shame is not the same as guilt. They’re very different. Guilt is over what I’ve done and the treatment for that as I’ve said is step 9. We make direct amends, you know, to those we’ve harmed. So this is what I did…

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WHAT MAKES AN ADDICT?


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What makes an addict or not? How do we differentiate between people who are addicts and people who are not addicts. In fact, there’s a third group those idiots. So we got three groups of people. First of all, the normals, then the idiots and then…

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ADDICTION AND ANGER


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Anger is a perfectly normal human feeling there are things that we’re all angry about. The behaviour of our politicians in recent weeks has not been very edifying. I bet all of us have views on what should be done…

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 ADDICTION AND DENIAL 


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Forty per cent of people with asthma, diabetes and blood pressure do what the doctor suggests, sixty per cent do not. We say with their diabetes, you are going to get cataracts. You’re going to get arterial disease resulting..

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ADDICTION AND FAMILIES


Coping when they come home. Well what you don’t do is to pour the alcohol down the sink because that’s artificial…

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CAN OTHERS CURE OUR ADDICTION 


Let’s start with can others cure us from our addiction. There are three things that people try, love, education and punishment…

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ADDICTION AND SELF ESTEEM 


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Self-esteem, I can’t give somebody else self-esteem. It can’t be done but I can show how it is achieved. Self-esteem comes from relationships. John Donne said, “No man is an island.”

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CODEPENDENCY


Controlling and helping. There is an arrogance to compulsive helping that is absolutely devastating because what compulsive helping does is to say, “I know what’s good for you.”

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ADDICTION AND SELF HARMING


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It commonly goes with eating disorders. This process is itself addictive. People will self-harm in order paradoxically to feel better…

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DEALING WITH YOUR FEELINGS


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I want the whole range of my feelings, I want to be sad, I want to be happy. I can’t be one without the other.

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ADDICTION RECOVERY AND COMING TO TERMS WITH THE PAST 


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Forgiving the past. Okay, anyone here totally happy with everything you’ve ever done in your life? Nor am I…

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DENIAL OR LYING


Lying, we’re good at lying. We’re very good at lying. We’re good at white lies and we’re good at black lies…

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ADDICTION RECOVERY AND EMPLOYMENT


Getting back to a job, well there comes a time when it’s very necessary to do that. There’s an AA speaker called I Clancy…

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DREAMS, NIGHTMARES, PTSD


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Nightmares are like any other dream, the body doing its housekeeping; the mind doing its housekeeping. It’s just reflecting of come what happened the day before.

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ADDICTION RECOVERY AND FAMILY SUPPORT 


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Without family support sometimes people here have a very, very difficult time because they’re going back into a using environment…

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EATING DISORDERS


People imagine that eating disorders are different from other addictions, they’re not. They’re simply a way if changing the way we feel…

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ADDICTIVE NATURE IN CHILDREN


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What we need to be able to do then is to try to change our society in the way that it looks at addiction…

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HOW TO HELP AN ADDICT


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What do you do if someone has a problem? How do you intervene? Well, there are specific techniques for intervention…

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ADDICTIVE RELATIONSHIPS


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Addictive relationships are in one of two directions. The addict needs to be fixed. As an addict I want something out there…

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LOVE AND AFFECTION IN THE FAMILY


First of all love and affection in the family. Addicts are incredibly loved. We loved the addicts in our family almost more than we love the other people…

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ADDICTS AND ANTI-DEPRESSANTS


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Mood changes, moods do change and I want them to change. We went on Friday night to the opera. We went to Glyndebourne. We went to see Prokofiev’s opera…

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PREVENTING RELAPSE


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What if the program fails? Well it does. In Promis we reckon to have about sixty-five per cent of people getting to long term recovery, which means that, thirty-five per cent don’t. ..

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ANXIETY AND ADDICTION


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Anxiety is a normal feeling. Fear is a normal feeling. I’ll give you two examples…

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RECOVERY FOR ADDICTS


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Moving from primary care to secondary care. Primary care here…

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BEING RESPONSIBLE WITH ADDICTION


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Training for an addict to become responsible without an addiction. The whole basis of our work here is educational…

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SPOTTING ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOURS EARLY


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It’s Anthony Hopkins who’s glad for himself to be known as a member of Alcoholics Anonymous, who says that “If we can’t be as gloom, doom, ginger ale and Jesus, I don’t want it.”

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TEENAGERS


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So, with teenagers they will inevitably have peer pressure. It is the greatest peer pressure time of all when one’s a teenager because the purpose of teenagers is to kick the boundaries…

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